Monday, July 27, 2009

Deal or No Deal

I have a very good friend, who has a boyfriend she's been dating for a 'minute'. When they started dating....he was all over her like white on rice (like always...lol) and now barely a year later he's cooled off considerably (the usual, work, other commitments...etc). No problem. A hot topic of debate for them has been marriage, they both want to get married to each other but he's not ready just yet. He wants to put a few things in place (finances....hmmm not sure what else...lol). She on the other hand doesn't see why they can't put those 'things' in place together. He feels pressured. He feels they can start to take the steps towards putting those 'things' together by saving towards common goals, possibly living together...etc before they get married. She feels, if he can do all that then what's the difference they might as well be married. She's starting to feel like he wants all the benefits of the 'cow' without buying it (I've always hated that saying)

So.....thoughts? What am I to tell her?

8 comments:

doll said...

she shouldnt move in with him...his excuses for not being ready for marriage sounds pretty lame anyways....she shouldnt pressure him...guys hate pressure..

how is ur angel?

9jamommy said...

Certainly agree with you on the pressure and 'lame' excuses.

MaDame said...

she shudn't move in...guys can be funny..after a while he wud start acting funni towards her...hws ur daughter

chichi said...

same thing happened to me, and i bounced. if dude says he's not ready then he isn't. There will be someone else out there for you, why block your blessings?

YankeeNaija said...

i know my response it late but she should just move on. he's ready to get married, but not to her.

Emy said...

Just thought I should add this even though the response might not be needed anymore.

Yankeenaija, you hit the nail on the head. The dude is probably looking for a quite way out of the relationship

Divaclan said...

Like it has been said, the guy is tired of the relationship and needs a way out.

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