I've been lazy, I have no other good explanation for not updating, sorry. Well the good news is that I'm not preggers (oooooh yeeeah...lol). I had a great birthday, Mr. took me to Abuja for the weekend complete with an uber fab suite at the transcorp hilton, they had a birthday cake in the room for me when I got there....awwwww, and of course I went with my camera acting all "touristy" like I'm not Nigerian..lol, don't mind me. It was nice to be away for the weekend with just him, even though I missed kpuff kpuff a bit......NOT!!...lol.
My parents bought me jewelry and a cake :), and my baby was "forced" to sign a card for me, maybe I'll scan it and put it up here, it's actually pretty funny. I also have like 3 other birthday mates, incidentally they are all developers as well, so is May 12th like a techie birthday or something?...hmmm ok 9jamommy you're thinking too hard.
kpuff kpuff
She can climb the stairs all by herself now....yey!!!, can say daddy and still no mummy :(
Completely Random
Oh I found out my very good friends boyfriend is getting married to someone else next month, what do you think? should I tell her? (me I no want wahala)
What's new with you folks?
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Are you really a FRIEND then? Witout wanting to judge you. You see, this is what I do not understand about this place when you can make a statement such as "my good friends boyfriend". If she is such a good friend then you will tell her and be HONEST with her. It's not about you you know it's about someone else. This is what I cannot understand about Nigeria. Everyone just sits there with the excuse about wahala and no-one says anything about the TRUTH. In all fairness she might already have her suspecisions but since no-one has said anything she may keep it at the back of her mind. ANyway think about yourself in her place. Will you like this to happen to you. Ask yourself this and if you feel that you would like one of your friends to describe you as a "good friend" but unwilling or unable to tell you the truth then that's fine. But if you feel that this is not how you would like to be described, then do something about it.
Totally tell her please, its not fair for YOUR good friend to be going around with the wool over her eyes. Even if she doesnt what she should with the information you did your share
So what pictures did you take then? It would be nice to see pics of the Abuja landscape if possible?:->
Don't worry about kpuff kpuff not being able to say 'mummy' yet...it'll come, eventually! I think the harder consonant sounds are easier for babies/toddlers to pronounce first - that's just my own opinion not backed-up by any scientific proof! Lol.
And finally, your friend! I agree with what others have said so far, please tell her. You're not looking for trouble, but if she is indeed your friend then you owe it to her to say something. What she decides to do with the information is then entirely up to her.
@2plus2...it's ok I don't feel judged. It's not that straightforward and definitely doesn't have anything to do with being Nigerian, I have been in similar situations in the past and told and the results not so nice. Plus this is second hand information I heard, I'm not about to go say something I'm not sure of. Anyway, I caved and told her this afternoon (thanks for making me feel guilty :( ), apparently she knew already and said we'll talk about it when she sees me, so I feel better. I guess that moves me over the the 'real friend' category now huh?...:)
@anonymous...I just told her today, see comment to 2plus2
@april...hmm I'll have to go dig up pics that don't have anyone in them and post them.
Well it better come, how dare she not say mummy?!! I mean who was waking up and feeding her at night and all...lol.
Regarding my friend, see comment above to 2plus2
So she can't say mommy or won't say mommy ... lol!
About your friend. Well, you have to determine what you should do. It depends on your relationship with her. Would she want to know? Some people do not want their friends getting involved in certain aspects of their life. So, should you? Good luck, it is a tough decision to make. But, if I make a small point - if you can't tell her, then you guys aren't as close as you think. Sorry...
BTW, am I the only person that does not know how to join that Nigeiran blogs aggregator thing? Geez...
Sigh...
It would be great not to know abotu such things wouldnt it??
As a friend, she deserves to know. I know I would like to ...she will hate you(IMHO) if she finds out you knew...
I was reading your blog when I realized that I am kind of in the same situation. My bestfriend's girlfriend recently got pregnant for the second time (how do people allow that to happen twice?!) and eventually decided to have another abortion. It was a huge mess that I never want to go through with them again. Anyway, two days ago, I was going thru her text messages (what can I say, I'm a nosy female) and was found out (I still think it's a joke) that long story short, it was someone else's baby. I have no clue what to do!
The irony is that I'm the one always trying to keep them together and to top it off, I gave him a really hard time about not paying her enough attention during the whole ordeal. I'm the one she always calls to scold him when he is "messing up." I'm not sure if I actually saw the message, if it was a joke, or if it was from .... nah! I saw it jo! Because lately she has been acting kind of strange and calling me more often that usual. Should I tell him?
That's tough... I personally hate being the "breaker of bad news"; however, If it was the other way around and I found out my friend knew my man was playing me and didn't tell, that friendship will never be the same. It's somewhat like a betrayal.
So, what I will suggest is talk to the guy and make him tell her. Tell him it will be better if she heard it fom him than you.
Same goes to anonymous 3:20... talk to the girl first.
Hi 9jamommy, loving the posts, makes me smile.
Kpuff-kpuff reminds me of my daughter, she started saying dada at 5 months, which I brushed off as baby sounds whenever hubby got excited, later on full-fledged daddy that couldn't be denied. No sign of mummy until about 16 months, and even then it was confusing like 'ehn, what did she say? Was that a mummy or nyunnyie?' She's 2 now and doesn't let me rest, so take heart!!
@sololmonsydelle....what you mean won't say mommy?...lol, well a couple of things made me hesitant to tell her, but there's no need to get into all that now as I've told her. Joining the aggregator thing is easy just click on "Submit your blog" and go from there...(you can email me if you have any problems)
@bluntremi....yeah I was almost wishing I didn't hear the news to start with, but now I have told her so no need for all that hate talk, ok?..lol
@anonymous...damn I thought I had drama, me I don't know o! as you can see, I am rather confused, since it's your best-friend tell him what you saw....(easier said than done right..lol) guys normally handle stuff like that better though..or like Lola said tell her so she has a chance to confess herself
@lola....not only you my dear, but I know what you all mean about our friendship. I don't know the guy at all in this case, I haven't met him yet as he lives in a different state from me, so that's not even an option, but I told her already so...there goes that.
@yummy mummy...lol...@ nyunnyie, that's so cute, well she better start saying mummy soon. Everyone said most babies say daddy first, but I thought kpuff-kpuff and I had something special...lol, well now I know
Good thing you told her, there is nothing worse than everyone knowing u r being played and feeling sorry for u/ wondering how stupid u are!
Hmm i think I know u...........was ur nickname 'smarties' in school? In "W"?
please tell her ASAP
@anonymous....well I wasn't looking at her as stupid, I just didn't want to be the one to break the news to her, cause I know she really likes him.
Hmmmm ya... so much for anonymous blogs..lol....I haven't heard that name in a looooooong time? who are you?, were you in W as well?
@excitedjade...I've told her
Mr sounds so adorable jare...Glad you had a good time..
TELL HER!!!
Totally love your blog... Please let your friend know.I went through the same exact stuff last year except he got married and I had no clue.... Tell her, it'll save her the grief..Trhe earlier the better:) If she gets angry, she'll get over it, at least she knows:)
Thanks Uzo....:), what happened to you on Saturday?
@justme...thanks, I did already
@miss jones...thanks :), I've told her, and she didn't react as badly as I thought. Sorry about what happened to you last year.
Why do people do that. how can u be getting married without telling 'others'. It just wicked I think. Crazy stuff goes on around us. Well its good she knows now. I hope she makes the right decision.
oh fuck are you serious?! her man is getting married?! yeah.. tell her... i can only imagine the pain she'll be going through(ironic that i was just watching this nigerian movie called player where some girls found out their fiancee was also engaged to other girls)really sad stuff... glad to know you had fun on your baiday.. and 9ja daddy pulled out all the stops didn't he?! good on you... take care and say me hi to kpuff kpuff
@tminx...I don't understand it myself. She's not one of the "wishy-washy" ones so I'm sure she will make the right decision. How is ikea-land?
@onb...I've told her. Some men (and women) are just crazy. Lol...it sounds like you're hooked on the naija movies, I was till I moved back. Thanks I really did have fun, I will kiss and hug kpuff for you :)
Happy Birthday (belated)
Not always a tough call - tell her.
kpuff kpuff - will say mummy soon...lol, daddy is just a bit easier to say...
I think it depends on the friend.
I have been in the same situation twice.
First time, an older friend's man was cheating. I couldn't handle the drama so I told another friend to tell her.
A few days later, the guy comes to harass both of us and call us CNN to our faces. Girl turns a blind eye and today, they are married with kids. Bet he still cheats and she turns a blind eye.
Second time, Met a cousin's boyfriend with another girl in Unilag. I kept my mouth shut until she confided in me about his philandering. Again, she turns a blind eye and today, they are married with kids.
Both cases happened while I was in Uni, which was over 5 years ago. I like to think I am older and wiser and if such were to happen again today, I would make the right decision but the odds are on me keeping my mouth shut.
Interesting conversation.To tell or not to tell.
I agree that it depends on the person.
@ababoypart2....thanks, told her already. Lol...well, she better say mummy soon if she knows what's good for her
@anonymous...I totally totally understand where you're coming from the once or twice I have said stuff it has blown in my face, plus honestly I just hate this he said she said mess. Hey do what you feel you gotta do, exceptions always apply.
@lolaojiks....yeah thankfully this one took it pretty well. I hope I don't have any more gossip coming my way don't want to be in the position again.
Well we should not just judge like that,what if she tell the friend and it boomerang on her-that will affect the relationship but sha if she feel she can handle it,why not.I once use style to tell a friend that i saw her dear husband in a place and coincidentally saw the secrectary in the same place and she just screamed what are you insinuating and please my husband is not that type,we are christian and i just change gear that i didnt mean it like that and can you belief she told her husband and he forbid her from being my friend and since then things were never the same and today,the husband is happily married to the secrectary as second wife
lol 9jamommy i count the number of times you've said "thanks i told her already" on my fingers and toes and several otehr body parts...just update! lol
haha!! This is wkd. Funny tho, i was just looking for a number for Saheetos and i get caught up in he said she said... made me laugh tho. l8rz
i think you need to tell her. save her the trouble of finding out AFTER he has gotten married.
this is evil.
Tell her Asap
Ehen...
still feeling lazy??
No kpuff kpuff updates...or the aburo sef...
na wah o
update!!!
Tell her. I was seeing this babe i knew from school and by the time i asked her out she said she was hooked!!! Talk about shock and pain. Happily she told me cos if someone else had, i'd nhave not taken them seriously.
Besides, being a good friend is being able to speak objectively to your friend and accommodate any irrational behaviour as a result of it.
kpuff kpuff says daddy first because she like syou more, she just doesn't want him to feel left out :)
As far as your friend, this is someone she's claiming as her boyfriend and she doesn't know he's getting married or she's pretending not to know?
..no one wants to be the bearer of bad news, especially when it is goin to hurt the person you love.
sometime i weight the choice of makin people sad, and tellin the truth, it is such a thin line.
**anyway let me give you a hint, just keep saying mummy around kpuff, she will pick it up..wink!wink! it worked for my cousin, and she won the bet with her husband..lol
happy belated birthday.
i am so stalking your blogg.
@anijawife.....damn, I'm sure the woman is wishing she listened to you.
@chichi...yes o, but what will I do, I know I don't read all the comments on peoples blogs as well, so I can't even complain...ol
@chizzle ma...lol..always nice to make people laugh, so were you able to get in touch with Saheetos?
@~mimi~..lol....strong words, it is indeed evil. Yes I have told her
@dolly....told her :)
@bluntremi....well I got my mojo back...complete with all the kpuff kpuff details...lol....Aburo ke? I'm not pregnant o!
@overwhelmednaijababe....I have :)
@anonymous...so these things happen to you guys too? well good thing she told you early. You're completely right with your definition of a good friend
@naija babe..exactly, exactly...that's what I've been telling them :). Funny thing is my mom said similar, she was like she would be very surprised if my friend didn't know already.
@toyintomato....lol...please what is the story behind this your name?..well I told her and thankfully there was no drama. Infact, going forward every song I sing will incorporate the word 'mummy'....lol. Your cousin got skills...lol. Thanks for the birthday wishes and the compliments on the blog :)
is kpuff kpuff a boy or girl? why the name: kpuff kpuff...I thought it should be pof pof...except its not what im thinking about.
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